Hello, I joined today because I feel quite lost and very guilty. My mom was diagnosed with PD 10 years ago. (she is 72 now) She also had 2 spinal surgeries -has implants- in the last 3 years. My dad is her main carer. I live abroad (although I come back 4-5 times a year and spend about 2-3 months in total with them each year) mom is able to walk and go to toilet etc on her own with a walker, she sometimes has slurred speech but overall cognitively well, able to do finances, chat about people and remembers names etc. but during my visit this month she has started to say that she sees people in the house. She does this in a playful way, she is not scared. The more I give attention to this the more she interacts with them i observed. She also today said to my dad 'that girl in the other room' referring to me, apparently forgetting my name.
Both me and my dad are not sure if this is really happening, whether to take her to hospital (corona worries) or mom is trying to get attention and pity. She always had depression and been always emotionally abusive to me, guilt tripping, emotional blackmailing etc since my childhood predating her PD. If i am speaking to my dad she interrupts with random things or childish sounds trying to get attention and again this is nothing new - growing up (some 25-30 years ago) she would be annoyed at me for chatting with my dad & having a good relationship with him. (they are and were together!) Mom's conversations always been about her and her issues, she dominates, she is the best in the world and everything happens to her is someone's fault. (Her breast cancer was due to me getting a scholarship to a top uni and leaving the city and her) I feel awful writing this because she may well be deteriorating but she seems to be remembering everyones name and every detail of everything! Don't the children's names go last? I just don't want to be taking her to hospital (she loves going to the hospital & doctors)
I don't know i am really lost, has anyone had experience with on-set of dementia? It's so hard to tell how much of it is her character and how much of it is real :/ Thank you!