Hi, Flyaway,
You didn't mention having children, and if you do, whether or not they're a part of your husband's & your care team. Making a move when one is 72 isn't easy. Having PD will make it even harder, unless you're moving into a Continuing Care Retirement Community. I'm 71, and have had Parkinson's for over 20 yrs. This disease has been a huge burden for my husband, a good man who is gregarious and generous. But nurturing? He usually has to be hit over the head before 1) recognizing someone else's physical & psychological needs and 2) knowing what to do about them. This was as true during our child-rearing years as it is now. It's been my observation and experience as a wife, mother, and teacher, that women are typically more intuitive than their male counterparts. If it was not for the intervention of nearby daughters and a sister, someone would probably have had to scrape me off a sidewalk years ago.
But our children have their own lives, with jobs and their own kids to raise. Last October we moved into a CCRC, and for the first time in a long while I feel safe.
We chose an Independent Living apartment for now, with an aid coming in 3 days a week for 3 hours. Doctors & nurses are always nearby on a different part of the campus, and we're still not too far for visits with our children. And we're BOTH glad husband is now free from daily cooking & cleaning responsibilities!
I can't say what's best for you and your husband, but I strongly advise that you begin to look at your current and future roles realistically. You 're not just a wife anymore, you've become a caretaker, too. With PD, there's no predicting the speed with which the disease will progress. And the quality of a Parkie's life is usually contingent on the energy, health, and insight of his/her caretaker.
Respectfully,
BLinNJ
PS - Yes, I definitely think you should discuss options with you doctor before making a decision, especially since you've both expressed reluctance. There's a lot to be said for gut feelings.