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The Always Evolving Shape of Love

On Valentine’s Day, many folks run to the store to buy cards, chocolates and flowers for their loved one, but my mind went to how my love for my husband is always evolving.

At the core, I love him with all my heart, mind and soul. I knew, within days of meeting him online, that he was my soulmate. His wit, passion, quick responses, and deep thoughts that he poured out via instant message showed me that he was “the one”!  Our conversations on the telephone were long and touching. Even twenty-four years later, I remember laughing at his jokes, engaging in spirited discussions and feeling like he was an old friend, instead of someone new. The comfort we shared online, on the phone, and in person was just so easy. All these years later, I’ve come to see that our love has matured and is always changing shape.

Being the driver

I’ve been the driver for our family since 1999. I was fortunate that Karl made the decision on his own and gave up the keys without an accident or pleading. I’ve always enjoyed driving so it really wasn’t hard for me to take on the role. For twenty years I drive, and Karl is my DJ. He spins the excellent tunes covering the 1920’s-2000’s. His knowledge of music and introducing me to new tunes makes our drives so enjoyable. I love the fact he shares his passion of music with me.

Laughter breaks through stress

For me, it can be so easy to let the little things turn into a gigantic avalanche of stress. My personality is upbeat, but there are times where I find myself making a mountain out of a mole hill. Karl has the capacity to take a pun, weird saying or word play and turn it into some goofy phrase that sparks laughter. His mind is so fast and sharp when it comes to these word plays. However, it takes me a few seconds to catch on, and then start laughing my head off! I’m so grateful that he has this amazing capacity to break tension and bring me back to a place of feeling grounded.

Tenderness when I need it most

My mind is always looking to find a solution to a problem. I find myself trying to forecast what is on the horizon to be dealt with next. To me, this is how I roll. I do my best to be in the moment, but I do tend to always be on the lookout for the next hurdle. All this advance preparation does take a toll on my ability to be passionate and tender. Out of the blue, Karl will give me a hug and remind me to be more present. He will grab my hand or touch my face. I appreciate and love the fact that he brings me back to remembering that I don’t have to always be on the lookout or on guard.

I remember those kids who fell in love. They are still here, but with a few more gray hairs – and a lot more types of love.

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  • Dan Glass moderator
    3 months ago

    Great reflection! Thanks for sharing. See you at Connexion.

  • heatherwg
    9 months ago

    This is such a sweet love story.

  • doreen.hribar moderator
    9 months ago

    Agreed, their story touches my heart.

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